Selflessness is not a detached state, disconnected from the world. Nor is it a state where we are caught in a new spiritual identity, “See how selfless I am.” In any moment we can let go and experience life without calling it “me” or “mine”… Selflessness does not reject our experience in any way. We don’t get rid of anything. The experiences are the same…All that’s changed is that we have stopped identifying with them…. As the beloved Tibetan master Kalu Rinpoche has said, “When you understand, you will see that you are nothing. And being nothing, you are everything.” When identification with the small sense of self drops away, what remains is the spacious heart that is connected with all things.
Jack Kornfield (The Wise Heart)